We can't solve a problem we can't name, and we can't get to where we want to go if we don't know where we are.
Being really honest, at least with myself, has allowed me to heal from trauma I couldn't even fully name or articulate before, and to build the resilience to move forward.
And when I speak from my perspective, for my own healing, what I've found is that it helps others too.
White supremacy, a system designed to favor those who are deemed white and oppress those who are not, affects all of us.
Racial justice isn't a "special interest". It is interlinked with all the other issues we care about, including gender equity, climate change, LGBTQIA rights, poverty, education, gun violence, criminal justice, immigration, healthcare and more.
I don't believe you can dismantle patriarchy without dismantling white supremacy, and I don't believe you can effectively dismantle any system of oppression without addressing all of them.
I’ve been writing about this journey for several years now but in December 2018, I decided that I wanted to try a different and more structured and intimate format. I wanted to review where I was in that moment. I wanted to take a moment to integrate what I had learned.
Without planning ahead of time what I was going to write, each day I sat down and wrote what came to me that I most felt like I needed to say.
The result was over 60 hours clocked writing almost 140,000 words.
But more than the stats, the result was new realizations, new perspectives, new healing and new connections with many amazing new readers who wrote to share how much they were getting out of the series too.
... is that I do my best to share from my own experiences without telling you what yours are or should be.
I do my best to tell the truth about white supremacy as I have learned to see it, knowing that I will not ever uncover the whole truth, nor is there one truth, only a multitude of perspectives.
I do my best to speak gently, from the heart, with love and compassion, while also confronting hard truths that may feel quite uncomfortable for me or you or for both of us.
I do my best to use courage, even when I worry about how you might react to what I have to say.
... is that, no matter what your background or identity, you promise to come with an open mind and an interest in listening.
I'm a British Born Chinese American - Google that and nothing comes up! (Except maybe eventually this page.) The immigrant daughter of immigrant parents, I've spent most of my life as the only or one of only a few non-white faces in predominantly white spaces.
Trained as an architect, with almost 20 years of experience managing workplace strategy and corporate headquarters projects, I am now a COO/integrator for hire as well as a leadership coach and consultant with a focus on women's leadership, diversity and inclusion.
Born and brought up in the UK, I've spent over half my life in NYC where I live now with my husband and two boys.